All my life I spent time helping people and caring about them, but never have I received more gratitude than some thanks. Very meant thank yous of course. But when I was in trouble I did not see anyone helping me.

It's unfair but no one will ever care about your problem. They might listen for a while, but forget it afterwards. The worst part of it, is that you are also one of those people.

It has nothing to do with you. When you see someone in need all you will do is run! Run as far as you can and forget what you saw. Don't be brave, don't stand out

because whenever a mugger threatens to kill someone your adrenaline will give you the strength only to run and hide. Like a scared little mouse that sees the cat.

I agree that life is not fair. I've held the hand of kids in Africa who possibly are dead now because of their really unfortunate situation (could be because of malnutrition, bad hygiene or even political instabillity). And here we are complaining, because surely most, if not all, of us have had some heavy times.

That's a matter of perspective. Surely I'm not lying about those kids in Africa, but that's far from home. We live in the perspective where not being able to buy a warm meal each day combined with a nasty medical condition sounds like about the roughest we can get from life.

Those kids in Africa would be helped with that situation: enough food to stay alive, capable and available healthcare, a decent government and maybe even shoes to wear...

Just wanted to say this about helping others: don't forget: you can be selective in who you help and at what task you help. You don't have to help everyone in need with everything. Try to help others as investment in yourself. For example: when I help someone with a Fenix program I might eventually benefit from this person's increased Fenix knowledge, or enjoy playing his/her game.

If you see helping purely as an investment, I think you might get as dissapointed as Dennis notes:

The philosophy I gained from my Christian faith is basically that we are blessed to bless others. So without the mentallity that helping is an investment. It's just loving your neighbour. When you can help, you should help without expecting anything back (of course: when reasonable).

With that mentallity, you might sometimes also receive help from people you do not expect it from. But also in church, people will disappoint you of course... People are the same, but this mentallity is a good one in my opinion...

It's not like that in Italy. Maybe it is like that in frigid-ass Westerners area. My girlfriend has friends that care for her all her life - with all her problems. When they have problems - they call her up crying and she pays attention to them. She puts all her own problems and her own life on hold just to help that person. She told me: "How do you expect to have friends if you don't care about them genuinely?" and she is right. If you want good friends, you have to be a good friend yourself - not just 'care' for a moment and then forget about it. This is being a shitty friend. Typical Western behavior..

Here's my view of the world: FUCK EVERYONE.

My goooooooooooosh, what are you guys? Pussies? Don't say 'us'. I'm not like that.

There is a saying "you reap what you sow",

The difference in your complaint is, that you blame the cause of the problem on the people around you. Which in my opinion is more weak, than trying to elaborate on how you can handle situations from your own perspective.

If you could change your mentallity from "fu*ck everyone" (if that is really your mentallity) to something more collaborative, I do beleive that improves your situation.

Looks like you haven't been fucked around hard enough to know what the world really is like.

I am an existentialist. I am an individualist.

Your inexperience shows here. "Oh bla bla everyone is different." BULLSHIT. Everyone is the same.

Thinking people are different is just an excuse to feel safe.

Nope, everyone can still go fuck themselves.

My view on what subject?